Many are surprised to hear that self-acceptance is not the main idea of EFT. It’s just that in order for EFT to work, some people need to say something nice about themselves.
For those people, if they start tapping before they say something nice, the tapping won’t work. We don’t have to understand it and we don’t have to believe it, but that’s the way it is. (You can do an Internet search for ‘EFT, Psychological Reversal’)
So we say something pleasant as we think about the problem. It’s just the first step in the EFT process to make sure that the tapping will help to release the strong or deeply buried stuff.
And it’s fine if you don’t actually accept yourself, whatever that means. Just say something nice while you tap and allow your uncomfortable thoughts to rise before you start the tapping rounds.
If you already accept yourself that’s great, and you can definitely use EFT to relieve your symptoms. And for those who have trouble accepting themselves, many find that self-acceptance is a side benefit of tapping.
Here are some light and fun alternative phrases for you to explore:
- I like my bathing suit
- I like my tie
- I want to help myself
- I’m OK you’re OK
- I’m a good person.
- I want to bring healing to this.
- My grandchild is beautiful
- I accept my garden
- I throw a mean curveball
- I am a good cook
- I accept my pinky finger
- My dog loves me
- Babies have soft skin
- I have two eyes, two ears, and a mouth
- The sun is shining
- It’s raining
- I can put one foot in front of the other
- I am still an OK person
- My Mommy and my Daddy love (accept) me
- I am doing a great job
You get the idea. Say something positive, affirming, or true; then start the tapping rounds. And start feeling better.
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